Is your I love you real?
Originally posted May 2018
Yesterday, when I was visiting my mom over the weekend, I got to go to church with her and hear the new pastor’s sermon. This particular day it was about love and whether we actually put the work into making love meaningful or if it just a word that we routinely use. This got me thinking.
We use the word love often throughout our day. There are many things that we can say that we love: Children, family, food, travel and a myriad of other things. But when the words “I Love You” come across our lips, do we really mean what we say? It is very easy to say the words, anyone can say them. However, putting the work into what is required to make those words meaningful is the key to making them real.
Generally, it is pretty easy to tell when someone is saying “I love you” just because it is what they feel they are supposed to do. It’s a requirement of a relationship. It’s a response to something that has been said. It is even a way to get themselves out of a situation that should have never happened in the first place. But to truly believe that the words are real requires actions that go far beyond the mere utterance of the words.
Loving involves caring, compassion, understanding, compromise and dedication. It is almost as if you never have to utter the words for someone to understand that the love is real. However, saying the words provides a nice validation that what we think is real actually is.
One of the greatest gifts of life is the ability to love and even more so the ability to be loved. If we are used to bad relationships, it isn’t that easy once you find true love to just let that love in. You have to respect it, believe it and then let it into your heart. When we are able to do that, it is a beautiful thing. When we are able to say I love you and the person on the receiving end has no doubt because of our actions, that is the most beautiful thing of all.
Have a great day and remember to be the reason someone smiles.