Erase regret and life a fuller life
How many times in our lives have we said, “I wish I had done it differently”? We feel like we made the wrong choices or decisions and then spend a lifetime beating ourselves up for them. In reality, when we made those decisions, we did so with the best information that we had at the time. It may not have been the right information, or enough information to make the correct decision, but it is what we had to work with and that led us to the ultimate decision that was made.
Regret often seems to pop up in my life from time to time and I am learning the importance of recognizing it for the emotion that it is and then letting it go. I also try and focus on all the good things that resulted from the decision that I regret, which often negates the regret emotion itself. Let me explain.
One of the regrets that tends to raise its head from time to time, is the fact that I only served four years in the military and didn’t see it through to retirement. I entered the military when I was 18, which means that I could have retired at 38 with a life long pension and medical benefits. All well and good. Then I start to focus on all the things in my life that have been positive that would have never happened had I stayed on that particular course.
I have been fortunate to have jobs that have allowed me to have a lifestyle that I could have never experienced staying in the military. I have traveled the world and lived a comfortable life. I have amazing friends that I would have never met had I continued on that path. Most of all, I would have never met my spouse, the love of my life, had I continued down that road. When I focus on those things, then the regret that rears it head loses its power over me, subsides and is no longer valid.
It is easy to spend our lives in regret. We constantly focus on all the decisions we should have made, instead of focusing on all the good that has come from the decisions that we did make. Living our lives in the past and filling it with regret only keeps us from living the beautiful life that we have. Erasing the regret and replacing it with a focus on the positive, ensures that our life is meaningful and full.
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