Are you 100% all in?

Do you ever have those days where you feel like there are things at work in the universe that are going to change your life and you just don’t know what they are? Many signs are appearing that your life is going to change for the better. You know it and believe it, you just can’t pinpoint exactly what it is. That has been me for the last couple of months.

They say if you continue to put your wants and desires out and truly believe that they will come to pass, the universe will find a way to deliver them to you. That is exactly what I have been doing and under the surface I can feel that something big is soon going to happen. My asks are private and simple and hopefully not selfish. But seeing them come to reality would benefit people far more than myself. Waiting requires patience and sometimes patience is the hardest emotion to reign in.

Throughout life we try and fail. We also desire and never receive. Then there are times where we want and that which we want actually becomes reality. What do you think may be the difference in these different outcomes? My belief is when there is a positive outcome it is because we were all in. We truly believed that which we desired was going to happen and we never let doubt get in the way. We meditate on it, we pray on it and we know if our intentions are right and we truly believe, when it is supposed to happen it does.

When there are times that we don’t see our desire come to fruition, I believe that happens for a couple of reasons. First, I believe that there is a potential unknown adverse effect that achieving our desire would ultimately have on us. We are being protected without our even knowing it. Second, I believe that the problem was that we were never all in. While we certainly had the desire, we were not 100% committed to seeing that desire come to fruition and were not willing to put in the effort to make it happen. To achieve success we have to eliminate any doubt that what we want will be achieved.

If you are striving to achieve something in your life, take a long look at your level of commitment and see if it is enough. Evaluate where you are allowing doubt to enter into the process and then work to eliminate it. Also evaluate the reasons for your ask. If you truly believe in your heart, you can see it and feel it, and you are not being protected from some adverse effect achieving your desire will have on you, then all things are possible.

Mornings with Ron is available as a podcast at anchor.fm/morningswithron or on iHeartRadio, Apple or Google podcast, Spotify or most podcast sites.

Sharing your voice

One thing that has been my passion since an early age is writing. When I was a young student, I wrote poetry. Over the years I have written short stories. With the Bring Smiles to Seniors program, I started the Mornings with Ron blog about a year and a half ago. So, it is only natural that the next step be a way to share my inspirational words with a broader audience.

I am pleased to announce that we are in the process of turning the Mornings with Ron writings into a book. It will be a collection of all my morning messages written over the last year and a half, organized by themes and categories. If you wake up feeling a certain way, or are going through an experience where you just need a little motivation or inspiration, you will be able to have the book at your fingertips for reference. The book is structured as a morning conversation with me, as I share some of my life experiences to hopefully give you nuggets that you can use as you navigate your life path. Plus, a portion of the proceeds of the book will be donated to Bring Smiles to Seniors to help keep the program going.

It is going to take some months to get everything manuscript ready, but my goal is to have it released in the first half of 2020 if at all possible. It will be self published on Amazon in book and Kindle form for those who like to have a book in their hands or those who prefer to read in the digital form.

It is because of your support that I will achieve this life long goal and I think you for being by my side along the way. Here is hoping it will be a big success and I am so excited to take this next step.

Ron

Is your friendship garden healthy?

In some of my previous posts, I have written about weeding the garden. This involves insuring that you make time in your life for those who make time for you, rather than wasting it on those who no longer find you beneficial. For so many years I clung to relationships that sapped my life energy simply because I felt needed. Somehow, I let their constant desire for attention without reciprocation become a validation for my own existence. It was only when I discovered true friendship in its best form that I realized I was on the wrong path.

To some, weeding the garden may sound harsh. There are those that believe that we need to be there for everyone, at every moment, any time they need us. While we have an obligation to support each other as a part of this human race, I don’t believe that part of the that responsibility includes negating the care we deserve for our own well being in the process. In fact it can be detrimental as it robs us of the opportunity to spend time with those who truly want to be part of our lives in equal measure.

Breaking that habit and bond is difficult. We don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. We feel like we are all they have and if we leave they will have no one. In reality, our being the crutch could well be the very thing that keeps them from being able to establish their own healthy relationships. Their dependence on us and our willingness to be there at the drop of a hat, gives them no cause to learn what a truly mutual beneficial relationship is like.

This is a harder concept to understand in our early years while we are trying to find our way and establish our friend base. However, as we get older and life gets more complex and busy with our own responsibilities, we soon learn that it is hard enough to make time for our meaningful relationships. Robbing those that want an equal friendship with us by spending our time on those that don’t ultimately serves no purpose.

The older we get, the more life becomes about balance and ensuring that we are doing things that energize us and nurture our soul. Having a sound friend base is an important part of that. We know in our hearts who those people are that belong in our lives. If we don’t, all we have to do is look for their true colors and they will show us themselves.

Mornings with Ron is available as a podcast at anchor.fm/morningswithron or on iHeartRadio, Apple or Google Podcast, Spotify or most podcast sites.

Growing the garden into something extraordinary

When I was growing up, I always knew that I wanted to do something extraordinary. Not for myself, but something that would make some small mark on the world that would leave it a little better off than I found it. I went through life believing that it would come some day, I just didn’t know when. Then three and a half years ago it was all made clear.

From the very first day that I walked into my grandmother’s room at her senior community, I knew my life was going to change. With the faces of loneliness and sadness that I saw, I knew that it had to. Grandma had already taught me that it was important to take care of our elders and ensure their well being. That experience prepared me for just how important that responsibility was.

Founding Bring Smiles to Seniors would not only change my life in ways that I would have never imagined, I would go on to learn that it would affect those participating in the program and those receiving the cards as well. It provided a place for people to find the purpose they had been looking for and those on the receiving end of the cards, the reminder that they matter that they needed. It created a community of people showing the best of what the world has to offer and and the power of harnessed compassion.

We all know that we are born into this world for a reason. Some of us are lucky to find out what it is early in life and others may never discover it. To do extraordinary things you have to believe, persevere and know that your mission in life is to discover that purpose. Life isn’t just about us, it is about what we can do together for the common good of all who are trying to navigate their life path.

The most important thing to remember is, although we may start amazing things, they don’t become extraordinary by our works alone. We can plant the seeds and continue to water them, but it is all those who participate in the care of that garden that you have built that contribute making it everything that is has the possibility to be. Each and every person who has been a part of the Bring Smiles journey is extraordinary in their own way. When my time is up, I won’t have to look back and say I wish I did, I will be able to say I know we did. Together we have built on my grandmother’s legacy one card, one smile at a time and we all get to smile in the process.

Mornings with Ron is now available as a podcast at anchor.fm/morningswithron or on iHeartRadio, Apple or Google Podcast, Spotify or most podcast sites.

Treat yourself and trade perfectionism for self kindness

Ever wonder why it is so much harder to be kind to ourselves than it is to be kind to others? The expectations and pressure that we expect ourselves to live under is sometimes overwhelming and unkind. Have I done enough? Is what have I done good enough? Why can’t I do more? So many times we expect ourselves to be perfect and sometimes forget that we are human just like everyone else.

When I was growing up I put high expectations on myself. I needed to have the best grades, do my best in competitive situations and always deliver at a level of excellence that often drove stress instead of satisfaction. When I was in the military there wasn’t room for error, you couldn’t make mistakes without consequences and perfection was not only expected, but demanded. As I move into later stages of life, all those pressures carried forward into my every day life.

In my career, I had to overachieve and in my extracurricular endeavors, everything had to be perfect. Eventually, it became necessary to sit down and have a conversation with myself and ask just who I was trying to please and why was it so necessary to be so perfect. What I realized was that all the expectations I had placed on myself, that I believed to be coming from others, was really coming from right within. No one was asking me to be more than I could be, or do more than I could do. It was me who was heaping those expectations of perfection upon myself and causing unneeded stress in the process.

While I have become better at setting self expectation, when you have lived with that for so many years it is a very hard pattern to break. Ultimately, your body and mind pay a price when expectations of yourself are so high when most people are happy with just mediocre. I will tell you that I will never be happy with just mediocre, but I also have come to realize that it can’t all be perfect. As I continue to work on that in my meditations, the stress that comes with that expectation starts to subside. I am learning to be kinder to myself and if you are struggling with a similar situation, I hope that you too are as well.

Mornings with Ron is available as a podcast at anchor.fm/morningswithron or on iHeartRadio, Apple or Google Podcast, Spotify or most podcast sites.

The art of appreciation

Think about the last time that someone did something for you and the feeling with which that left you. Now think about the last time you did something for someone and how good it made you feel. The act of appreciation releases a set of endorphins that just makes the body and mind feel good and is one of the most underrated forms of self fulfillment that we have.

Showing appreciation does not require large amounts of energy or money. A simple thank you, card or verbal acknowledgement is all that it takes. It lets the person that has gone out of their way to do something special know that they matter and that their act was well worth the effort.

In the Bring Smiles to Seniors program we send receipts for all donations that we receive, no matter how large or small. I sign each and every one of those receipts. At the bottom of the letter I always write a personal note to the sender to let them know how much their donation meant to us. It takes extra time and effort, but something that I feel is incredibly important to ensure that those who continue on our smile journey know that the time that they took to be a part of what we do matters.

Appreciation is our way of honoring those that honored us. It is an interaction that matters, is important and is necessary. It also provides validation for the person on the giving end that what they have done was meaningful. It provides encouragement for future acts of kindness and ensures a world where we all know what we do makes a difference.

Mornings with Ron is available as a podcast at anchor.fm/morningswithron or on iHeardRadio, Apple or Google Podcast, Spotify or most podcast sites.

Surrounding ourselves with those who enrich us

The older we get, the more important it is to have people around us who bring value to our lives rather than sap our life energy. We don’t always realize that in our earlier years as we try and find our way in the world and weed through the mass to find those who will ultimately be our life long friends. When we are younger we have the energy to deal with those that make our life more difficult rather than meaningful. However, as we age we start to weed the garden and hopefully wind up with those that make us laugh and feel loved.

We have all had those people in our lives who are takers rather than givers, They expect us to be there for them at a drop of the hat and support them even when they fail to support themselves. Yet, when the time comes that we need the same from them, they are nowhere to be found, until they need us again. While we don’t always know why we put up with them as long as we do, unfortunately it is often because we just need someone there and they know that.

If we truly look deep within our relationships, we can determine those that are nurturing our soul and those that are not. These are the people who support us, love us, need us equally and let us know what they mean to their life. The people who don’t possess these qualities quickly rise to the top of the pack. It is then our responsibility to weed the garden where necessary to ensure that we have the time available to spend with those who truly deserve it.

We are never guaranteed tomorrow and that makes it incredibly important to ensure that we are making the most of today. That means surrounding ourselves with those who not only enrich our lives, but allow us to enrich theirs in equally beneficial ways. Life is short and we owe it to ourselves to make it the best that it can be.

Don’t let guilt and anxiety rob you of your best life

In our lives, there is no one that can be harder on us than ourselves. We repeatedly beat ourselves up for past transgressions. We carry guilt for some wrong that we may have done years ago. We are constantly anxious about everything going on around us that may involve our home life, work or social situations. In doing this, we rob ourselves of the very moments that we should be enjoying the life that we have been given.

One of the programs that I just finished on my meditation app that I have been using is recognizing and letting go of stress rather than letting it control you. Life presents us so many opportunities to be stressed and anxious on a daily basis, which makes it even harder to escape from it when we carry guilt and anxiety from things that aren’t even a part of our life any longer. How we deal with that stress determines, not only what our moment is going to be like, but what the rest of the day, week or month is going to be like as well.

One of the things I have learned is that is it nearly impossible to rid your life of stress. The mere nature of our daily activities are going to present opportunities for stress to arise. However, when we recognize stress as an emotion, see it for what it is and then let it go, it starts to lose the power over us to control what our future thoughts are going to be like. The technique I have learned is to see it, recognize it and then bring the mind back into the body and let it go. Trust me, this is no easy task. However, with practice it is something that truly works in a remarkable way.

If you have ever read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, there are four agreements that we should make with ourselves that have become a part of my every day life. I have these posted on the wall in my office:

  • Be impeccable with your word
  • Don’t take anything personally
  • Don’t make assumptions
  • Always do you best

Stress and anxiety are two emotions that have the greatest potential to derail the kind of life that we all strive to live. Both meditation and living by these agreements have had a profound effect on how I experience life on a daily basis. Not adhering to any one of these four opens up a world of opportunity for stress and anxiety to be a part of my every day life. If you can find a way to make these agreements a part of yours, it is then that you will provide yourself the opportunity to have nothing to be guilty for, or anything to be anxious about.

Mornings with Ron is available as a podcast at anchor,fm/morningswithron or on iHeartRadio, Apple or Google podcast, Spotify or most podcast sites.

What is a rich life?

We all worry about money. Do we have enough, how can we get more, will there be enough to retire and the list goes on? In fact, the amount of money that one possesses is often used as the barometer for how valuable their life is. However, when you think about it, money is only a means of bartering and exchange that was created so long ago, way after life itself was created. It’s only value is that which we place on it and when it becomes the most valuable thing in our life, then somewhere along the line we missed the boat.

We know that we all need money to survive. It allows us to have shelter, sustenance, necessities and comfort. But at what point is enough, enough? Just how much do we need and at what lengths will we go to get it before we finally learn that is isn’t money that will bring us the rich life that we are looking for?

When I was growing up, we didn’t have a lot of money. My mom and dad both worked to ensure that my brother and I were provided for. We always had a roof over our head, clothes to wear and food in our stomach. We couldn’t afford designer things or extravagant events, but we always took vacations and always as a family. Whether we were on the road going to visit my aunt in Pennsylvania, camping out at the lake or simply at home together, we lived a life that was rich in togetherness, caring and love.

As a family we never needed to spend all our time wondering how to get more money, because we had what we needed to survive. Small things were big to us and we used our creativity and ingenuity to do with what we had to make our lives whole and complete. Sometimes, I think that not having the world laid at our feet was the very reason that my brother and I grew up with compassion and caring for those that were in need.

When money is the basis that we use to value our life, the chance that we will never have a full and complete life becomes even that much greater. Having money often creates the need to have even more and our whole life becomes about only doing things that ultimately meet that goal. When we realize that having a rich life actually has nothing to do with money at all, it is then that we have the best chance that we will live the life that we so richly deserve.

Mornings with Ron is available as a podcast at anchor.fm/morningswithron or on iHeartRadio, Apple or Google Podcast, Spotify or most podcast sites.

Different decisions, different life

When I saw this quote, it struck me just how true it is. Every minute of every day we are making decisions that determine where our life is going in those next minutes. Sometimes, we unfortunately make the same wrong decisions over and over, without realizing that a different decision could alter the very path from which we are trying to escape. Why do you think that is? My guess is it is most likely because, although that decision may be the wrong one, it is comfortable and familiar.

When I write about making the most of your life minutes, I mean it in the sense that every single minute of our life is an opportunity for something different. We only get the next minute once and the decisions that we make in that minute have the potential to have a profound impact on what the next minutes of our life are going to be like.

It is not always easy to make the right decisions. Sometimes we have faulty information on which to make our decision. Sometimes we have competing priorities that rush us to hurried decisions. Sometimes we make the decision that we know is wrong because we just don’t have an alternative at that particular moment.

At the end of the day we can only do our best and be impeccable with our word. We also need to be open to altering our decisions when we discover that those that we may have made were not the best. When we do that we have our best chance of living our best life and making it all that it can be.

Mornings with Ron is available as a podcast at anchor.fm/morningswithron, iHeartRadio, Apple or Google Podcast or most podcast sites.

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